Calling Out & Calling In
With the holidays upon us, it is altogether possible that a friendly conversation might take a turn to a more polarized topic in which a friend or loved one could say something hurtful, demeaning, or uncalled for. If you strongly disagree, you might choose to address the issue by “calling them out” on it.
We’re all familiar with “calling out,” as it is an immediate confrontation. It is a hard stop to the momentum of the moment and all conversation ceases until the issue is addressed. You’ve placed an instant boundary by drawing a line in the sand and bringing immediate attention to the things you object to. “Calling someone out” tells the person that their words or behavior is not acceptable to you…
The Suitcase Strategy
The Suitcase Strategy | Assisting With Healthy Boundaries and Supporting Interpersonal Interactions
When packing a suitcase for a trip, we pack items that have meaning and connection to us. Some things feel more comfortable or safe enough to bring with us on our trip, while other things we leave at home as we don’t feel safe or comfortable bringing them. We can apply this same concept to our interpersonal relationships when we interact with the world in a social setting.
Taking Care of Yourself
Winter can be a difficult time for many reasons. Let’s talk about how to take care of ourselves!
Staying Present When Triggered
When your brain shuts down, usually due to a stressful conversation or event, it is trying to protect you by kicking in the steps toward fight/flight/freeze. This is common and not "weird." You are likely experiencing a trauma response based on something that happened in the past.
How to Regulate Your Nervous System
How to Regulate Your Nervous System
One of the best ways I have found to intentionally regulate your nervous system is through the TIPP strategy from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy developed by Marsha Linehan. This strategy has four easy steps to help you to manage and also reduce stress and anxiety levels. This makes it an excellent choice for anyone who has difficulty controlling their emotions.
